MODERATOR: Good Lord people, haven’t we seen this one on Dr. Phil? Jim and Jess, from Lima, Ohio are battling over Jim’s mother’s antics. Read on and see how she compares Jess to a Texas steer. See if you can help them out.
JESS SAYS: “Jim’s mother is rude, disrespectful and finds new ways to be insulting. Jim and I have known each other most of our lives, and have been married over ten years. I always got along with his Mom before we got married, but like a switch, she turned on me after the vows. No woman has ever been good enough for Jim according to her and I am no exception. I have made every effort to be a good daughter-in-law by doing the little things such as picking out gifts, visiting her when I’m in town (even without Jim!), sending the birthday and anniversary cards, and making sure our kids see her in a positive light and love her dearly. She, on the other hand, has trash-talked me to every member of Jim’s family, has taken Jim aside and accused him of marrying “inferior stock” (I miscarried twice), and has made fun of my housekeeping in front of my kids. Jim rarely ever takes it seriously. He knows it hurts my feelings, but he’s not particularly close with his Mom and says we can’t change her anyway because she’s 82. He’s defended me on a couple occasions, but he’s always wanting to stay on her good side too. The last straw for me was when she offered us a gift of a larger sum of money we could use toward our downpayment on our new house. It was conditional in that Jim had to put the house in his name only (in case we get divorced, it was her intention that he’d get the house). In his defense, Jim stood up to her and refused to do that, but he was very soft about it. I think she needed more of a “telling off”. I’m done with her, but Jim’s wanting me to make nice. Am I nuts, or is she out of line?”
JIM SAYS: Mom is rude, no question, but she’s always been that way. She’s the oldest of nine sisters and she’s the self-appointed “boss” of the family. She wants to be looked up to and bowed down to. My wife is sweet, but she’s a strong, modern lady and my Mother thinks that means I’m being taken advantage of. It’s a misconception of someone from another generation, and I think my wife needs to let it roll off her back a little more. Mom’s harmless if you just let her do what she does and ignore it. I would never let her destroy what I’ve built with Jess and Jess needs to be a little more confident in our strength as a couple. Besides, let’s be real – she won’t be around forever. She’s 82. ”
MODERATOR: VOTE NOW! Jim or Jess – who’s right? Is Jim a Momma’s boy or is Jess overly sensitive? Polls are normally open for 48 hours after post – we’re keeping early entries open longer. Check back to see who’s winning, and to view the next BlogFight!
